Who packs up their family and decides to move over 2000 miles across the country in a matter of 4 months? I did! And it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I’ve always believed there are 2 reasons why people typically make these big decisions – Love or Money. In my case it was neither at least not directly.
It was January 2014 – a year prior to today – and I was in the process of extending my work from part time to full time. Fortunately for me things were not falling in to place the way I thought it would. I say fortunately because suddenly I realised the road to working more meant more time away from my family. Long 2 hour commutes in traffic each way – total of 4 hours. By the time I leave work and pick up Bubby from daycare, make dinner, eat dinner and prepare for bed time I am exhausted. But exhaustion isn’t even the main issue. It’s the fact that I will have little to no quality time with Bubby. Long days and late nights are not appealing when you have a toddler. It’s even less so when you have no family support. I had nothing to leverage to meet all the long terms goal I had. What if I wanted another child, owning my own business, more sleep, a more active lifestyle. All of a sudden it became blatantly obvious I had to move in order to get the support I needed for my family. We were fortunate enough to be able to do this. My friends were shocked to hear this, after all, we have a great life. I lived in a great neighbourhood, great jobs, nice home – basically the life that most would covet. However, I didn’t want to go down the path that I saw in my big city – both parents working long hours, children in daycare full time, stressed, tired, very little family time. It’s not appealing for many reasons but in the end it is not a healthy way to live. And at the core of every decision I make is to support a healthy mind and body. and surprisingly an easy one.
This is the time of year I reflect on the past 12 months and take stock of all my accomplishments and set new goals for the new year. My husband calls it family achievement night or FAN. We make it a Family event while we sit around and reflect on what we did well and what needs some more work. Having done this exercise this past week assessing how much my life has changed is remarkable. If someone had told me a year ago that I would be relocating from a my big city life which I love for the almost 2 decades I was there to a new more slower pace city I wouldn’t have believed them.